It's funny, we often read that we will never forget our first love. Well, that part isn't really the funny part. The funny part for me is, often times when thinking of a "first love", I apply said term rather liberally to who I want at any given time. For instance, during high school I dated two people, and then after I dated just one for the next 5 years. Somehow, somewhere along the way, that 3rd boyfriend gets lumped in with those first loves.
Hmm. How to better explain myself. There are certain things I think of with each of those first loves. For example, obviously when I think of my first date, I think of my first boyfriend. But when I think of the first time I went to a prom with a date for instance, I do not think of the prom I went to with my technical "first" love, but rather the prom I went to with the technical "second" love. Furthermore, when I think of any dinner dates I ever had with a first love, the first two loves are cancelled out completely and I think of that "third" love.
So I ask you...is it possible to have multiple first loves? Is it that we assimilate certain memories with certain people at any given moment?
How is this actually fair to any of them that this is the way my memory works? Society and music (first and foremost) convinces us of the first love that will never be forgotten. I just don't believe it's true. I just don't think that there is any one (singular) first love...yes maybe for some. The ones that only date a few. Or date the first for many years. Or even more, get married to their first love...BUT was it their first?
Just because my first boyfriend came sophomore year of high school, does not mean that most had their "first" love happen much sooner. So do they think of that boy/girl that they went with in middle school, scribbling their first and last name on every book cover, holding hands with at the ice rink as THEIR first love? Because in some sense, it was love...
The perception of it all can drive a mind into madness. But it makes you think...who do you think of when you read the words "your first love"...
Just a girl, wondering where it all begins, and if the last really can't count as the first, while the first still holds said position.
I believe, too, that our perspective of first loves changes as we evolve from the crazy stages of what we once thought was real love. Like I once thought I was in love with this 40 year old man. Just today I was driving down the highway thinking what a complete idiot I was. But I didn't think I was one then... It IS all about perspective :D
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